If prn is degrading to women. What about lesbian prn? Or amateur prn? amateur prn being two consenting adults filming themselves and posting it. |
You say that amateur porn is "two consenting adults filming themselves and posting it." Is this to suggest that "professional" pornography consists of one or more non-consenting adults?
Sorry I can't help further...I don't see porn as degrading to my fellow woman. |
Why are people so offended by the the word "gaydar"? I use it all the time. I've been out for eight years, so it's not like im so amateur lesbian who just throws around words that I shouldn't be using. My friends will jokingly call me a "dyke" sometimes and it doesn't offend me. I think people need to lighten the f*ck up! Does ANYONE agree? Or are you all just as smug as everyone else? |
Hell if I know..
Maybe because they don't understand it. Because they lack it..
What one doesn't understands one fears.. well for many such goes.
And most humans are blind, there is so much more out there.. but most put blinders on put wax in their ears .. blind I tell you. Trust me here there are more dar's then gaydars.
Don't let their fear for what is different hurt you. They will have to awaken in their own time.
May knowledge and wisdom bless you |
How would you react if your son was perusing porn? And not the soft-focus semi-acceptable playboy stuff.
As in amateur submissions, multiple lesbian co-bed-inhabitants and all the rest of it.
What would be the most appropriate action to take?
This boy is aged 13- my friend's son (my 11 yr old thankfully is under the wife's constant glaring gaze). |
The first thing is that if his parents try to stop him, he will just go 'underground' with this and resent them into the bargain.
The big problem is that he needs to be able to differentiate between the girls in the pictures/movies who are pretending to be enjoying themselves and real women.
They need to explain to him that these are 'fantasies' and in real life, women don't all get naked as soon as a hunky guy or sexy girl winks at them. At 13 there is a chance that he could begin to form the impression that this is how all women behave, so they need to point out to him that the women in these pictures get paid a lot of money to pose like this. It not just women who are not models either. The models themselves are very unlikely to be spending all their non-working time holding sexy poses, blowing kisses at everyone and stroking themselves erotically.
Both I and other friends have been pestered by guys who think that - because we're gay - we're into threesomes with guys, or that we want them to watch us having sex. These theories almost always come from them looking at porn and getting some pre-conceived ideas about women.
This boy needs to understand that the women in the porn pictures are not an accurate representation of women. He needs to start hearing this now and he needs to accept this.
There are a few other things he needs to try and understand though.
One of the great wonders of love and sex is exploring a partner's body for the first time. By repeatedly viewing porn several things are happening.
He's desensitising himself from the beauty of the naked form and he's watching the exploration of people's bodies as an outsider - something he should be doing himself in a few years time. His expectations of a woman are going to either be very high or he's going to find there is little arousal in the naked form because he's seen it all before.
His preconceptions of what a couple does when making love is going to be different from other people of his own age group. In fact, his preconceptions of the whole process of falling in love, going from cuddles to kisses and spending time moving up to the point where both feel ready to advance to sexual intimacy is something he either won't understand, or the length of time it takes to get there may prove frustrating for him.
I don't believe that watching porn turns all guys into rapists, but my experience is that most guys who frequently view porn are not particularly good lovers and they are very demanding about trying to get you to have sex with them. They never seem to make for very faithful lovers either.
At best, he might develop 'techniques' that will appeal to some women. At worst, his expectations and forcefulness could lead to him being accused of inappropriate behaviour towards women.
There is one other consideration to make that must be addressed. By law, a person should be 18 or older to view pornography. It can be difficult for parents to know what to do about this, but the fact remains that if he's caught using pornography, the boy's parents could be held responsible - especially if they know he's doing this.
The boy's parents should perhaps consider talking to their family doctor about this. His curiosity is quite normal in a boy just coming into puberty, but it's how it affects his future life that is important here. At 13 he can't understand some of the consequences of what's he's doing right now and it's a tricky area for a parent. Do nothing and they're culpable if his behaviour with women becomes inappropriate - become too heavy handed and they end with a situation where their son becomes angry and then secretive about his interest in watching sex. Doctors do understand about these things and they may suggest that the boy talk to a counselor who can help very discretely and in total confidence. |
I am trying to find a club in NYC that has drag shows (with drag kings) and has some sort of amateur night.? If you can help me in anyway I would greatly appreciate it. I have been looking online for a week now and none of the lesbian clubs have them. A bunch of the gay clubs do, but it seems to be all queens. |
| I can only think of Murray Hill and that is it. |
Amateur's guide to pleasing a woman? My boyfriend and his friend would like to watch me and this friend's fiancee...um.... yeah.... we've both agreed to it, but i have no clue what im doing!
any guys or lesbians have any tips? its my first time and i wanna please her.
thanks. |
I'm giving you a link to a "How-To" article. Its written from the perspective of a straight woman giving advice to a straight man, but the author does a very good job of describing technique.
The most important thing you can do is tell her you are inexperienced and it would really help if she told you if what you are doing feels good. If she's not comfortable being that verbal about it, then just read the signs of your body. I'm sure that, since you're a woman, you know how to tell when a woman is getting close to orgasm.
Here's the link. Hope it helps!
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BAND NAME FOR pinay LESBIANS? jigger and pen? crumbnails? anyone can suggest good names for our amateur band.. tnx a lot! /:~) |
| how about storm? i dunno, i just like it ;] |
Lesbians, Bisexuals, and Men. (pics in the question)? So a few people have told me recently they think i look like megan fox, of course im not even close to as pretty as she is, but tell me if you think we have similarities ! I know it's pretty amateur to ask a question like this, but im curious what you think
thank you :)
PS BE HONEST
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| I think you look like you! |
Is that make me gay plz help? I like watching femdom movies and men in pain and this stuff of movies and also lesbian movies , amateur etc
Is that make me gay ? |
| No, it doesn't make you gay. |